I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression


By Terrence Real

I Don't Want To Talk About It June 2025 Book of the Month

In recognition of Father’s Day and our focus this month on men’s health, OCHP recommends the classic I Don’t Want to Talk About It by NY Times Best Selling Author and Psychotherapist, Terrence Real.

A bestseller for over 20 years, I Don’t Want to Talk About It is a unique guide to understanding and destigmatizing male depression.

Twenty years of experience treating men and their families has convinced psychotherapist Terrence Real that depression is a silent epidemic in men, and that men hide their condition from family, friends, and themselves to avoid the stigma of “un-manliness.” I Don’t Want to Talk About It helps men and their families understand this thinking, heal themselves, and restore relationships. 

Combining personal anecdotes, clinical case studies, and cultural dynamics, Terry Real delves into the topic of male depression with empathy and expertise, and illustrates how problems that we think of as typically male (difficulty with intimacy, workaholism, alcoholism, abusive behavior, and rage) may actually be attempts to escape depression. More important, I Don’t Want to Talk About It provides valuable, practical strategies to understand and overcome the unique nuances of male depression.